2) Be personal. Talk about your real problems, and ask people about theirs. <– Keeping yourself closed off will make it so much harder for people to consider themselves your friend. At some point, they’re going to excuse themselves from the relationship and you’ll be back to your lonely, friendless self. Feel free to open up to someone. Reveal things in small doses until you feel comfortable in their trustworthiness. It’s still okay to keep some things to yourself so don’t feel forced to reveal everything.